Playing catch up – as usual…

October 21st, 2007

Great Grandma Cogdill with MayaOkay, so I think it has been about a month and a half since I updated my blog with anything interesting. That's what happens when you are so busy you can't see straight. Here's a few photos of Maya to catch you up-to-date. Back in August, we went to visit Grandma Cogdill, who immediately snatched Maya and held her the entire visit. Grandma loves those babies.

Maya has this nifty (goofy) chair that allows her to sit up and see the world by giving her support where her head-bobbly self doesn't have any yet. She loves to watch TV… don't know if she likes the shows, or just the pretty lights and sounds. :)

Maya and her tv chair Maya and her tv chair

The next few posts will all be "catch-up"posts as well…

Utah’s DCFS and Attorney General Strike Again!

September 5th, 2007

Okay, so you already know I have ZERO love for the messed up Foster Care system Utah pretends is a "National Model" for everyone to follow. Well, this article in today's Salt Lake Tribune pretty much sums it all up… and is another reason we have signed up to do short term shelter care instead long term foster parenting.

You ever heard the phrase: "The head of the fish stinks first" – This describes the head of DCFS… Read on.


Children removed from homes going to shelters because of a legal snafu

By Kirsten Stewart
The Salt Lake Tribune

Article Last Updated: 09/04/2007 11:28:42 PM MDT

Utah's misinterpretation of a federal law meant to protect abused children may be causing them more harm.

Children who are removed from their homes by the Utah Division of Children and Family Services (DCFS) are being parked in temporary shelters – sometimes for six weeks, or longer – when they could be staying with a family member, like a grandparent, or a friend of the family.

The practice grew from the Adam Walsh Child Protection And Safety Act of 2006, which requires that all adoptive or foster parents, including a child's kin, undergo thorough criminal screenings conducted by the FBI.
   
Nowhere does the law say background checks must be completed before children are placed, but that's how Utah understood it. The resulting practice has caused a backlog at shelters and could have dire consequences for thousands of foster children, says a child welfare reform advocate.

"To deprive a child of a loving grandparent for seven weeks for no reason other than agency foul-ups is bureaucratic child abuse at its worst," said Richard Wexler, executive director of the National Coalition for Child Protection Reform in Alexandria, Va. "I know of no other jurisdiction in the country that interpreted the law this way."

Duane Betournay, DCFS director, acknowledged, ''In hindsight, I can say, we may have gone too far."

But there's little Betournay can do to immediately correct the mistake.

Based on legal advice from the Utah Attorney General's Office and legislative counsel, Betournay swayed legislators last year to change Utah law to comply with the agency's interpretation of the Adam Walsh Act.

Betournay said he will ask lawmakers to correct the statute during the 2008 Legislative session, which begins in January. To help shelters with their backlog in the meantime, Betournay spent about $200,000 purchasing machines that help process fingerprints to hasten criminal screenings.

"Instead of waiting six to eight weeks, we can get them back in less than 72 hours, as long as it's a clear background," said Betournay.

But a staff member at a children's shelter in Salt Lake County, who asked not to be named for fear of losing her job, said Tuesday that criminal screenings are still taking up to eight weeks.
   
The same staffer said some caseworkers have discouraged use of another stopgap – moving children out of the shelter to short-term foster homes until a kinship placement is approved.

Doing so would increase Utah's average number of foster placements, a measure used to gauge states' child welfare performance.

Citing the Adam Walsh act, Utah also told shelters to prohibit overnight visits with relatives, unless a court orders it, or the family member is a licensed foster parent.

Wexler calls the "forced institutionalization" of Utah's foster children an "outrage."

Youth in shelters "are being treated like inmates for whom visitation is a privilege instead of children for whom the chance to visit loved ones should be a right," he said.

Wexler, who first alerted Utah officials to the misstep five months ago, suspects Utah's rush to change the law signals a hostility toward kinship placements.

Utah acted despite a January 2007 directive from the federal Administration for Children and Families, explicitly telling states Adam Walsh does not mandate background checks prior to placement.

The administration cautioned, however, states could lose federal funding for foster placements absent a background check.

At risk are tens of millions of dollars, said Betournay. "We were going on the best information we had."

Utah has among the nation's lowest rates of kinship placements, though it outperforms other states when it comes to placing foster children for adoption.

But Betournay denies Utah is biased against kinship, and said the state is working to improve its track record. Further, he said Utah joined other states in lobbying against the Adam Walsh Act.

A decade of research has shown kinship placements are more stable and less disruptive for children than placing them with strangers. In Utah, 56 percent of kinship placements fail, an unusual result that has prodded DCFS to better train families, said Betournay.

Still, Wexler wishes there were more urgency to correct Utah law.

"For a young child, being torn from everyone they know and love, even if that removal is necessary, feels like a kidnapping, and can be just as emotionally devastating," said Wexler. "Placing a child with a loving relative is the best way to cushion that blow."

Hurt by the law
  
* What happened: Congress passed the Adam Walsh Child Protection And Safety Act of 2006, which requires that all adoptive or foster parents, including a child's kin, undergo a thorough background check by the FBI.
* Fallout: Utah misunderstood the law to mean background checks must be done even before temporarily placing an abused child in the home of a grandparent or other relative. Utah law was changed to reflect this.
* What's next: Child welfare officials have promised to correct state law at the next legislative session in January. Meanwhile, thousands of kids are stuck in shelters.

Grandpa Hollis N. Service – SLC Tribune Obituary

August 23rd, 2007

Since the Salt Lake Tribune newspaper only posts the obituary for 30 days, I decided I would duplicate it here… forever.

Hollis Norval Service - “Grandpa Holly”Hollis N. Service "Holly" 11/23/1908 ~ 8/21/2007 Beloved father, grandfather and great-grandfather, Holly Service, passed away peacefully August 21, 2007 surrounded by his family. Holly was born November 23, 1908 to William Service and Bertha West. He was born and raised on the Avenues of Salt Lake City where he witnessed early Salt Lake history and captivated family with his stories. Married Myrtle Ruth Harvey June 24, 1931. Later solemnized in the Logan Temple. They were a loving, devoted couple for 67 years. Grandpa has been an avid Uteman since 1918 when he sold Eskimo Pies in the old Deseret Gym. Holly and Myrtle spent many hours supporting their Utah teams. He was honored to be chosen as a Utah Super Fan. A natural athlete, he started golfing at age 65 and that same year won the Granite School District Golf Tournament. He went on to score two holes-in-one in his lifetime, playing his last game three weeks before his death. Holly was a loving father who always supported his boys in whatever endeavor they wanted to pursue. He had an infectious laugh and sense of humor that he passed on to his posterity. He developed friendships with everyone he met. Holly was preceded in death by his loving wife, Myrtle, and brother, Jack. Survived by sons, Gary (Linda), Craig (Diane), eight grandchildren and 15 great-grand-children. A viewing will be held Saturday, August 25, 10:30 to 11:40 a.m. at Larkin Sunset Gardens, 1950 E. 10600 S. followed by a graveside service at 12 noon. Online condolences can be made at www.larkinmortuary.com WE WILL MISS YOU GRANDPA! 

First Magnus Financial Bankruptcy

August 22nd, 2007

This is just a quick post/rant about my former employer: First Magnus Financial. They abruptly closed up shop and filed for bankruptcy last week leaving MANY employees WITHOUT their last PROMISED paycheck – me included.

My partner and I have setup a website where FMFC employees can sign up to be apart of a class action lawsuit against them. If you are interested, please visit www.suefmfc.com right now. 

Hollis Norval Service – born: 11/23/1908 – passed: 8/21/2007

August 22nd, 2007

Yesterday was one of the saddest days in my life. 

My 98 year old grandfather passed away suddenly. I spent most of the day in the emergency hospital room at St. Marks hospital with my uncle Gary, aunt Linda, cousins Mindy and Chris and my cousin-in-law Allison. We all watched as my grandfather passed peacefully. 

He went the way he wanted to go. Even at the ripe old age of 98, he was still living independently, driving and even golfing with me this summer. Last Wednesday, during our last lunch together, he was even a little worried because his driver's license was going to expire this year and he was afraid they wouldn't give him another. We all know he would have passed the test with flying colors.

There aren't enough words in the English language (that I know of) to explain what a father, grandfather and GREAT grandfather he was – emphasis on GREAT. I already miss him dearly. It is going to take a long time for me to get a new Wednesday lunch routine that comes remotely close to the good times I was able to share with him over the last two years. I cherish every moment I spent with him and consider myself the luckiest of his grandchildren to have that time.

I will continue to post stories and "Hollyisms" as they come to mind. Speaking of "Hollyisms" my cousin-in-law Allison remembered another one while we were sharing time in the emergency room. I've added it here .

My grandfather was a man who will be talked about, quoted, and admired for many generations to come. The State of Utah and the city of Salt Lake will never be the same again.

In loving memory of my grandpa Holly, who to the great joy of my beloved grandma Myrtle returned to his Heavenly Father yesterday. 

I’m back on the preverbial “horse”!

August 2nd, 2007

My surgically repaired kneeIt has been SIX years since my knee surgery that replaced the ACL in my right knee with the center piece of my patellar tendon. Here's a picture of my knee about a week after surgery (at the same time my twins were born). Thought I'd throw that in here just for kicks.

… And since I blew my knee playing the game I love so much, it has also been 6 years since I stepped on a soccer field with cleats and shin guards in a REAL attempt at playing in a REAL soccer game.

The wait is officially OVER. Last night I was invited to fill in for "Ben Beasley" on an "Over 30" mens competition league. I mention Ben because I looked most like him and had to use his player card (illegally?) to check in so I could play. :)

How did it go you ask? Let's just say they've invited me back to play full time. We were down 2-0 at half time. Shortly after the restart, I found myself on the left wing all alone. I took a beautiful cross and found nobody to beat but the goalie. Course, my superior goal mongering skills kicked in and I cut the deficit in half with a well placed shot into the right corner. A few minutes later I took a volley at the top of the box and sent a rocket 6 inches over the cross bar… it would have been a sweet goal.

We did manage to tie the game and send it into a SHOOT OUT. Yeah, I thought it was strange too, but in this league they don't do any overtime periods. They took us straight to a shoot out. I was a little surprised when they asked me to take a shot in the 4th position out of the first five since this was the first time I met the team… I guess they figured I could handle it after seeing me play. :)

Course, none of them knew I was the PK specialist on my college team at South Mountain. The guy on the other team who went before me missed wide left so the pressure was on me to make it. No problem. I hit my ball hard into the ride side netting (not back net) about chest high. No goalie in the world could have stopped it, even if they guessed correctly and dove that direction.

Anyway, our keeper Hunter (who invited me to play) ended up saving the next kick and sealed the deal. We won on PKs 3-2. All in all, I was surprised my legs and feet still remembered how to play, and I didn't hurt myself or suffer a heart attack in the process. Course, I'm not moving too swiftly today… 

Down the street a beggar flew…

July 29th, 2007

A few months back I promised to have a video of my grandfather reciting his (and mine) favorite poem. He's getting up there in years so he almost forgot how it went… but here goes. It's always funnier when he does it. :)

Maya, Grandpa, The Twins and Ethan

July 29th, 2007

Ethan with his new baby sisterYes, this is another post with photos of the new love of our life, Maya! Ethan wasn't around for her birth, so this first photo is of him holding his new baby sister.

Wednesday, we took Maya on her first trip to see Great Grandpa Service. I think he was tickled pink. The twins think grandpa is a crackpot.

98 (almost 99) year old holding a week old granddaughter The twins having a laugh with baby Maya and Great Grandpa

Daddy does my hairAnd one last shot of Maya AWAKE and wearing her new hair bows and favorite outfit. :) Do you REALLY think daddy does her hair?

More Maya Pics and Videos… 5 days old

July 17th, 2007

Okay, this post is specifically for Natalie since she BEGGED me for more pictures of the baby… Enjoy!

Isaac holding his new baby sister Owen holding his new baby sisterDaddy and his new baby girl

Big Smiles! (gas most likely) Maya and her mommy and brother Owen. She likes the “sling”A rare moment - Open Eyes!

Avery and his new baby sisterAnd here's one last picture of Maya being held by Avery. You're going to have to wait to see Maya with Ethan… he's in Arizona visiting his Grandma Jackie. He'll be home in 2 days, so we'll be sure to post him up here too. :)

In the meantime… here's a few more videos. Toby was being a good boy, so we let him come out front with us to enjoy watching the twins ride their bikes. Course, he kept wanting to chase them down and bring them back home. Goofy mutt. He's amazingly gentle around Maya though. Who'da thunk?

And a few gas bubbly smiles…

Twins Riding Bikes!

July 17th, 2007

I should have taught them how to ride their bike LAST SUMMER, but I decided against it. Now that we've had our official night of learning, I'm glad I waited.

That was the easiest time I've ever had teaching kids to ride a bike. In fact, Isaac pretty much just jumped on and took off without me. It was GREAT! He proceeded to ride circles around his brother Owen until I could get him up to speed.

It only took Owen 3 or 4 runs before he was rolling too. Course, he's not quite up to Isaac yet after one night (he can't turn around yet) but he'll get there. We've all decided we need to get them new bikes for their 6th birthday. Enjoy the videos!

Isaac – the prodigy genius bike rider:

Owen – learning the brakes:

The twins are having fun on their bikes!